Particularly, men were keen to point out the influx of single mums on the market.

As you look for a lasting relationship, I’ll give you the 411 on how to distinguish between those who have basic, everyday issues versus those who have intense emotional problems.

If you see red flags in the first few weeks of dating The best way to tell if someone has serious emotional issues as opposed to the garden-variety, everyday issues is to consider the timing.

In the beginning of dating, everyone is theoretically on their best behavior.

For this reason, you shouldn’t see any major red flags in the first month or so of dating.

“As a single, childless woman in my early thirties, let me assure you that there are a ton of single dads out there, too.” Another sarcastically added, “I'll be 30 in a few months and I'm a single mother (oh, the horror).” But, even when you eventually find someone worth dating things aren’t always as they seem.

Lots of users claimed that, in your 30s, the dating field becomes so much more serious and that trying to find someone who’s not just in panic mode is near-on impossible.Dating is hard at any age, but even more so in your 30s. “You would think that people get better at treating each other well and mature emotionally as they age, but NOPE.” Another adds, “Lots and lots of unmatched swipes on Tinder.” But, perhaps the most common concern among those looking for love in their 30s is the amount of baggage people come with.The playing field is narrower, your number of single friends is dwindling and everyone’s carrying around a whole lot more baggage. Taking to Reddit, droves of singletons in their thirties have been revealing what it’s really like to tackle the tricky world of dating. One user says, “Dating in your 30s is trying to find someone with the least amount of baggage (emotional, children, etc.), or at least less baggage than you.” “It's like sorting through a bargain bin of damaged goods,” another agrees.You’re much more likely to have a better perspective on relationships than you did in your infatuated teen years and while, dating is a part of life, you realise it isn’t everything. Less games, more honesty, better dinners,” one user states.Everyone would love to think the person they're attracted to is emotionally intelligent (flashback to early-20s-me who clung to any soft boy who owned a vinyl record player).“There will be times where they say things that are hurtful or that they regret, but at that point, they can admit it."7. Some spontaneity is good, but there’s a huuuuuuge difference between the guy who plans a last-minute romantic weekend trip with you (knowing in advance that you’d be free, of course), and the guy who gets fired from his third job in a row because he maxed out the company card. “They’ll know their limitations, and they’re not going to get into situations where they’ve really overextended themselves,” says Whitbourne. Emotionally intelligent people are always looking for ways they could be kinder or wiser, including in their own relationships. They check out their reading of a situation with someone else.” says Whitbourne.