Then you read this letter by Emily Bracken posted on Medium and reposted on Huff Po. I’m around the corner, down the street, on Facebook, in your office, at our local coffee shop, a complete stranger. In the meantime, which of the things on Emily’s list will you admit to? But I got the feeling that you were beginning to think I didn’t exist. And I wanted to let you know that while I might be as elusive as a unicorn grazing in a field of four-leaf clovers, I’m close. Have a great weekend and come back on Monday for a juicy reader question from a woman who is ready to toss in the towel on men.

When I was 31, I hadn’t thrown out the list, my life wasn’t together, I was dating the wrong person, I needed to date more to understand what I like, I wasn’t able to appreciate the right woman until life kicked my ass, and I was too focused on what I was getting instead of what I was giving.

I’ve been intentionally keeping my head too busy to think with my heart. I need to date more to understand what I do and don’t like. I won’t be able to appreciate you until life has kicked my ass. It’s entirely possible that we did hit it off once, and I left without getting your information; or maybe I did get your number and never called because of any one of the above reasons. Just keep making your life exciting and full, so when we do finally come together, we can bring each other joy, because we are already happy. I could have written the same thing ten years ago, if only I were more self-aware.

If you can bounce back from your failures, learn from your mistakes and keep practicing, you’ll slowly become desensitized to the fear of rejection and become unstoppable with women.

OK, so those are the five core concepts of whats involved. They’re borderline sleazy and a girl will instantly know your intentions.

Now it’s time to give you a step-by-step breakdown of the process for picking up a girl. In the time it takes to think up a clever pickup line, you’ll probably miss the golden opportunity to approach. An example of a situational opener (if it’s cold outside) would be saying something like “Where did you get that amazing coat? The aim of the opener is simply is simply to grab her attention. Start with “Excuse me” if you approach a girl in the daytime. You’ll be able to tell in a matter of seconds if your personalities click.

We’ll start with the approach and end with how you exchanging numbers. If you can’t think of anything to say on the spot, a simple “Hey” or “Hey, hows it going? Women don’t expect to be chatted up during their daily routines. So there is no need to straight up interogate a girl on her hobbies and interests in the hope of finding a connection.

It’s really not fair that you’ve had to wait this long, or go on blind dates, endure bad sex, settle for ‘meh’ relationships, feel misunderstood, cry from loneliness, wrap your arms around a pillow as you fall asleep at night. This is my best stuff and I’m giving it to you absolutely free.

I haven’t thrown out the list of things I think you should be. If you watch the third video, you’ll also be signed up to receive my special report based on my last nine months of research.

If you appear confident in your approach and be direct with your intentions you’ll have no problem picking up girls. Chatting up girls can be the most nerve racking experiences imaginable. Confidence is largely perceived non verbally, so it’s important you communicate this through your body language and voice tonality. It will only make a girl anxious and wanting to end the conversation. Whether you’re meeting a girl or going in for the kiss, YOU have to be the one pulling the trigger. You must be bold and prepared to put your neck on the line for women.