So why do you keep regarding bars as places of romantic potential? Does he remember last week when you made eye contact at the other end of the bar? At small parties, there’s no privacy.” That reminds me: I’ve been meaning to warn you against adopting Gatsby’s game.

Jay Mc Inerney sums up the paradox in his novel “Bright Lights, Big City”: “The problem is, for some reason you think you are going to meet the kind of girl who is not the kind of girl who would be at a place like this at this time of the morning.” Depending on the vibe of your spot, though, it may be a really nice place for some flirtatious chat. Look at Archibald Motley Jr.’s painting “Nightlife.” Documenting the Black social life of Bronzeville, Chicago’s South Side community, the background of the painting is injected with the exuberance and rhythm of the jazz age. Don’t rent out The Last Word, publicize it robustly and arrange the invite of your green-eyed hottie.

The women had different ideas about why children have no qualms about talking to strangers online and why parents remain in the dark about this behaviour.

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They don’t look for appreciation or love or a confidante – they have someone at home for that.

Clear instructions on appropriate online behaviour, cyber safety measures and monitoring are enough to keep them safe.

As I headed home, I thought that if I was perhaps in a class with this man or if he was attending a house party that I was at, I would have approached him.

Something about being at a bar and talking to stranger has always intimidated me. Dear Lust, From the tabernae along the Appian Way to Beowulf’s Mead Hall to the Mos Eisley Cantina of Star Wars, bars have always served as places of edgy, vaguely dangerous adventure.

Chances are high that your child is a rational, happy, confident person, secure in your love and appreciation.

As I mentioned earlier, such children also chat with strangers, but it is with the intention of making new friends, something like the penpals of our time.

At a recent ladies’ get-together, discussion about the murky world of online grooming, cyber stalking, and identity thieves found its way to our lunch table.

Everyone had a story to relate about Facebook friends turning kidnappers, handsome teens in chatrooms turning out to be adult men, children revealing personal details while playing online games and so on.

Unlike your counterexamples from class or a house party, encounters at a bar are based on having very little in common besides what’s assumed by venue choice.