Rules for dating older men
Or, you know, some version of whining about your age. With age (often) comes maturity and chivalry—take advantage!
Assess Your Social Circles Take an honest look at your friends and anyone else who is a recurring character in your social life.
Think about friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, and even extended family members with whom you socialize.
I older men are just looking for a good time or notch on their belt. Whether that's a mature twenty-something, an immature thirty-something, or a quirky lady living with three dudes like Jess.
Or a 24-year-old girl from New Jersey who happens to blog about her relationship. DON' T use childhood/pop culture references that he will never get.
Though compatibility factors are important for any relationship, the stakes are even higher for relationships with major age discrepancies.
Do your homework and get to know your new crush well before you let yourself truly fall in love.Russell confesses he hasn't dated since 1989 and Jess replies, "That was the year I learned to use the toaster by myself." Not so hot.DO be lovey dovey, but DON' T nickname him something based on his age (Fancypants is cool, though).There's already enough pressure when it comes to dating, why add more stress and think about the age thing if you really like this dude? I’ve heard so many different rules about dating someone older, and they all boil down to a magic number: “Don’t date anyone more than ten years older,” or “Marriages never work if there’s more than fifteen years’ difference.” People love rules, telling themselves that abiding by them will cause them to get hurt less. The most important rule to follow is a general one: Make sure the two of you have the same goals for the relationship and for your daily life together. Think about whether you want to get married; have a big or tiny wedding; have children; be with someone who already has kids; live in the future in the same town or city where you’ve been dating; move somewhere far or close; have extended family very involved or not very involved in your life; have a relationship where you socialize almost always together or often; have a partner who’s more of a social butterfly or homebody; and have a partner who is very involved or not very involved in extracurricular activities. Psychological Age You’ve probably heard someone say, “He seems young for his age,” or “She’s so young at heart.” Though we all have a chronological age, we also have what I refer to as a ‘psychological age.’ How old do you feel, for example? In addition, ask yourself what the psychological age is of your prospective older partner. Again, use those early months of a relationship to gauge whether your sexualities are congruent enough. Don’t embrace any rigid rule about age differences. Don’t be fooled into thinking that just because someone is older, he or she isn’t very sexual.