Let’s break that down: based on what we know, if you’re a woman and receive a message, the man who sent it is about 5 percentile points ​Those sending the first message are already getting results. If all women sent more messages, would they get more responses? In the physical world, maybe that means a subtle wink.

The playing field is also pretty even: there are 1.5 men for every woman on the site.

These women are progressive too, with 43 percent of women preferring to split the check (compared to 17 percent of men).

When we looked into the data for women, we were surprised to see height exaggeration was just as widespread, though without the lurch towards a benchmark height: These are the average weekly unsolicited message totals by height; you can think of these as the number of times a person is “hit on” out of the blue each week on Ok Cupid.

The genders are plotted on different scales because of the eternal fact that men almost always make the first move, so women get many more unsolicited messages.

But it’s very hard for the casual browser to tell truth from fiction.

With our behind-the-scenes perspective, we’re able to shed some light on some typical claims and the likely realities behind them.

So we asked ourselves: why are ladies — in particular, straight women — less likely to spark a conversation? The number of messages received doesn’t affect how many messages women send out.

At first, we thought that women could be more passive because they get a lot of attention. Even if a woman receives zero, 10 or 20 messages, she’s not likely to send more.

Let’s be clear: on Ok Cupid, your attractiveness rank isn’t just about looks — you need great photos and an interesting profile to get more likes and boost your standing.

What if we proposed that women who rank more attractively feel like they don’t need to reach out first?

For men, those who are most attractive send the most messages, with the top 40% reaching out the most.