There’s a huge difference between the act of paying a compliment and the act of attempting flattery.

The former is a genuine attempt to express your appreciation for someone’s physical or cognitive attributes, and the latter, a form of deceit.

Be strong and show her that, despite your tender years, you know your own mind and are more than willing to share it.

Silly references to her being a MILF, cougar, or hot mom will not impress her, and will probably solicit the execution of a stingingly swift slap across the jaw.

If you want to charm her, talk about her apparel, her wit, her beauty–not how many wrinkles she has on her neck! The older woman is a lot smarter and keen-minded than the little air-heads of your own age group.

If she wanted a conversation and a bill payer, she’d have stayed with her last husband. At some point, you’re going to have to take her out on a date, which can be quite daunting, considering her experience in this field.

Just remember: she’s no fluffy bunny, but a strong, confident woman who knows her own mind.

But she isn’t so bitter and cynical that she doesn’t know how to appreciate the odd compliment.

In fact, as she as she passes through her middle years, she’s probably more receptive to her ever-dwindling supply of compliments than ever before.

They like who you are–all that freshness and youthful spirit–and don’t want you to pretend to be anything else.

Irrespective of age, there are certain traits that women need to see in the male objects of their affections.

Take her to the kind of place a woman of her age deserves and expects–somewhere swish and impressive–and save the burger joints for the twenty-somethings.

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Don’t forget you’re dealing with an older woman, here. Let’s be honest, here, one of the reasons you can get into cougar panties when your older counterparts have failed is your youthful vigor and physique.