To understand ambivalence, try thinking about a change you have been asked to make, or think you should make, in your own life. There’s just too much to do, or your favorite TV shows are calling you, or it’s just too nice being up after everyone else is asleep and the house is quiet.

Using these questions can help to elicit change talk: Here are some examples of how conversations might go: Clinician: If you were going to change your alcohol use, why would you do it?

Client: Well, my doctor’s been nagging me, and I’m beginning to think she’s right.

Sagrada Familia in Barcelona, Spain, which began construction in the early 1880s under the direction of the architect Antoni Gaudí.

Thanks in large part to Gaudí's death and the Spanish Civil War (and in large part to the incredible complexity of Gaudí's design), the construction for the cathedral has dragged on for decades.

I’ve got to do something or my liver just won’t take it anymore. Clinician: So, you’re thinking your doctor might be right about your drinking too much, because of your liver and your blood pressure.

Clinician: I know you’re not ready to begin to change your marijuana use, but if you were, what are some things you would do?It sounds like a good idea, but by the end of your work day, you’re tired and it’s hard to be motivated to exercise. On one hand you have good reasons to make the change, but there are other equally compelling reasons not to.You are ambivalent about change, even if it is in your best interest.Client: Oh, if you talked to my wife she’d tell you at least three! She says I’m not reliable and don’t come home when I say I will and that I don’t remember some conversations. Clinician: It seems that things might be more peaceful in your marriage if you were drinking less. Client: I have so many other worries about my health.Clinician: How important would you say changing your drinking is right now? Clinician: It seems to you that your drinking is not the most important thing right now.It is not scheduled to be completed until 2026, the centennial of Gaudí's death.