And here I was, after so many years, looking at that list again when it dawned on me that my most recent ex had almost everything on the list -- except one thing. And that's when I bumped into the hiccup—finding the 100% guy, I realized, would be easier said than done.I had let him have a pass on it because he was 99% on point, and damn, I never scored that high on any test before, so who was I to judge? Here were the main problems: Too much to choose from makes you numb and dumb. Although I was dating again, I was doing what THEY were interested in. But, on dates I was starting to feel like a census pollster trying to figure out how many of my boxes the guy checked. The Breakthrough Soon after I started dating again, a friend asked me about what type of man I wanted. I answered, “He would be the kind of guy who'd invite me to art galleries, for example." My friend came back with, “Well, do YOU go to art galleries?" Practicing with a PINER makes these relationships possible. At some point THE WILDCARD could walk in and go right to the head of the line. And be sure to schedule one personal day for yourself every two weeks.

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I could be one of those guys that goes to galleries. It's about following my heart, my interests and my passions.

Rather than guess what someone else was looking for and try to be that, I needed to have faith that who I am and want in life is awesome and worth it and that trusting my gut will lead me to the kind of guy I deserve.

I also realized that I needed to re-think my criteria for that 100% guy, especially when it came to the "just dating" phase. was only seeing a guy if I thought he might be the complete 100% package and that clearly wasn't working, this time I was going to try something different and date multiple people.

It's ridiculous to expect ONE guy to be ALL the things I need in a life partner—especially on the first date! And maybe until I found that 100% person, I could find what I needed from several guys who fit 20% of my criteria and at the same time stay open to the possibility that my definition of the perfect guy and my checklist might grow and change as I did. I re-downloaded my dating apps, went on tons of dates, all while making sure to save one day a week for just me and my friends. The guys I was interested in and with whom I was most compatible starting separating themselves out into predictable categories—five of them, to be exact.

Who am I to say THE PINER won't end up being your 100% guy? Making out with him is fine but try to resist the urge to go all the way. STEP 3: Start Dating Your Team in Rotation Identify activities or passions you want in your life, but aren't in there currently. Since you are a busy person with friends, hobbies and work commitments, you can only date each one about every two weeks.

Cinderella wasn't the obvious match for Prince Charming. And although THE PINER is best when you leave the lust out and they can teach you a lot about self-control, nothing can stop love. The Cheerleader: This guy knows all about you but likes you anyway and you shine just a little brighter around him. This is a guy who, as much as you try—I mean, —to be attracted to him, you're just not! After an enlightening foreign documentary screening with THE PROFESSOR, you may have to let him know you need to get up for an early meeting and be home by 11pm only to have THE STEADY waiting for you to call him over at midnight. This allows you to let the relationship with THE PROFESSOR grow while not wasting your time on a purely physical relationship. " you will shout as you hop into your Lyft, leaving him wanting more. Maintaining these dates becomes part of the game and the challenge here.The vibe is to only call them back if you feel like it.Only answer a Face Time if it's a good time for you.If you are fed up with modern dating to the point of insanity then you are exactly where I was when this method was born.A caveat: This guide was written from the perspective of men who date men and the dating tropes and behaviors that go along with it (though some of the Guide's insights will hopefully be helpful for straight and/or lesbian singles, as well).The Steady: A safe, easy booty-call to keep your hormones in control when dating someone new. The Piner: Someone who you would be with if things were different, with whom you feel the chemistry, i.e.