One common reason to delay a first date is due to an attempt to learn more about the other person. I found the first few minutes of the first date are worth more than dozens of emails.

It is personal preference on how long to wait but there are very few reasons to delay.

After all, contacting someone is just a pre-cursor to the first date.

I made this mistake early on and now understand why a few girls, after several emails, would ask direct questions like “Is there anything else you would like me to answer? There are times where you will feel like you are communicating with a “great catch” only to realize what a mistake that was 60 seconds into the first date.

It is important to meet early on so less time is spent talking to the wrong person and more time is spent trying to find the right one. The first date should be planned not long after communication has begun.

In contrast, many times the dates ended with coffee or lunch.

This approach is a cousin to the having-your-friend-call-you-and-faking-an-emergency act that some people think is so slick.

Either way you approach it, they won’t mind if they are having a good time.

If they you not break your plans you may want to evaluate how well the date is going!

Honestly, I have never felt comfortable talking on the phone for long periods of time (even to close friends) so I prefer to jump straight from the internet communication to meeting.