Unfortunately, before you find your prince (or princess), you have to eliminate the frogs."Romance" scammers, sometimes referred to as "sweetheart" scammers take advantage of vulnerable people, especially divorced women over 40, by posing as an eligible romantic prospect. Scammers may use a fake name or steal the identity of a real person.

The FBI’s Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) reports that the average complainant loses over a hundred thousand dollars to internet dating scams.

They saw more than $82 million in victim losses in the last six months of 2014.

Many women use their profile as a list of their likes and dislikes. So focus more on what you have to offer, and less on what they can do for you.

I guarantee you’ll see the immediate payoff in the quality of men you attract. Here are some statements I see every day in women’s profiles: “I’ve waited so long for the right relationship and I hope it’s finally my time.” “I’m ready to be his everything.” “I’m looking for a relationship where we are totally devoted to each other.” While some of this may be true for you, it’s not something to put in a profile.

It could be a personal emergency like a family member who needs immediate medical attention, or some kind of financial hardship like a failed business or street mugging.

While declaring their love and devotion for the victim continually, the scammer may directly ask for money to be wired to them, send a check or money order and ask their sweetheart to cash it for them, or send a package and ask it to be reshipped to a different address.Be careful not to sound like there is no room in your life for a relationship.It often goes something like this: “I spend my days as a busy lawyer and my evenings teaching courses at the local college.There is often more than one person perpetuating the scam - there have been reports of a room full of people working from the same script.Often they portray their fictional selves as living overseas or on active duty in the military.The good news is that unlike a lot of things in life, your profile is easy to change and update.