(Though if it does take you hours to reply, it is worth acknowledging this by giving a quick explanation; though an apology isn't usually warranted - if it had been urgent he should have called.) A good way to strike this balance is to text the men you are dating in the same way that you regularly text your acquaintances friends or family.

Would you bring your phone into to the gym with you - even though you normally don't - in order to be available for a text that your female coworker might or might not send you?

” He of course IMMEDIATELY called her back and she didn’t answer. It worked smashingly but it also elicited negative emotion.

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I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.

If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.

You've probably heard all kinds of suggestions from other girls about how long to wait before replying to a text from a guy you like.

Some claim you should always wait 15 minutes, others insist on only replying to every other text, while others still dismiss "playing games" as ridiculous and advocate replying however you feel like in the moment. It will either make you come across as needy and too easy, or else cold and too distant.

Yeah, sure, maybe it will mean that you occasionally seem a little over-excited to get his text (because you happen to be checking your messages when his comes in), or a bit distant (because you were ignoring your phone while studying for ten hours, and his text came in right after you started); but you will only seem so in the short term.

No single text you send will represent to him your attitude, so no single response time will matter completely.

So when he texts, answer him naturally, genuinely, authentically.

If you find yourself thinking "I don't feel like replying right now," or "I'll get to it later," then don't reply at all, or tell him (tactfully) that you don't want to pursue a relationship.

If a girl wants to send me a nude pic, I won’t stop her but I will let her know right after she shouldn’t have done that! You: Sounds good maybe I will see you out tonight Jason: Okay Jason: wait, what did you hear??? This “hook” basically means you bait the message with information he wants to know.