Gary Neuman agrees that casually introducing every date to a kid is a bad idea; equally wrong, he believes, is minimizing the importance of a new love interest.

Children who "discover" that their parents are in loveoften feel betrayed when the situation reveals itself.

The day we sat on the sofa and broke the news, my daughter could only yell, "I high school! Therefore each first date becomes a sort of internally conducted interview for your future.

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But when she referred to their father as someone who was dating, the children were quick to insist that she was wrong."Daddy told us he won't date until we're in college," they declared.

"She's just a friend."Tears followed some time later, when the father asked his sons for "permission" to allow Joanne move in with him. C., author of Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way.

You may find that you spend more time thinking about your motherly (or fatherly) physique. Keep in mind that if you're dating in your age range, the people you're dating are probably thinking the same things about their body that you are. Our approach was to always try to make our house a place of safety and stability. In fact it's not only possible, it's completely worth it.

Marriage has a way of allowing you to become a bit, shall we say, soft. Maybe if you've had a few kids you have some saggy bits. Love really is pretty blind, and the right person won't give two shakes about your stretch marks. I know this because I waited a long time to be with someone I really wanted to sit with at dinner and lay with at night and raise a family with.

The reasonis simple: A child's own identity is very much tied to that of his family.

When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.

It is an argument for honest, direct dialogue with kids about new relationships: Why Mom or Dad wants one, what Mom or Dad will doif a new relationship becomes serious, and how Mom or Dad's relationship with the child will be affected. had been divorced for six years when she announced to her children that she was thinking ofstarting to date again."They fell on the floor laughing," she recalls.