So the first step in dealing with a control freak is to understand that you are not weak and incapable.

This is one of the reasons why your friends and family may not understand your unhappiness in such a relationship and on the contrary praise your partner for the caring person he/she is.

Indeed this two-faced mask suits your partner fine since they can use it convince you that nobody else has a problem with who they are and so things are as they should be. Though experts believe that a controlling behavior is part of a dysfunctional personality, if your partner has just begun to show such signs, perhaps there is still time to work things out.

If ever she gets the courage to express her misery, her husband may blackmail her into staying because of the kids or threaten to leave her without any money.

Here the best way to go about it is to prepare yourself financially and emotionally to lead an independent life and then face your partner and force him to call his bluff. If you really wish to make your relationship work, you may need to seek professional counseling, preferably with your partner or even by yourself.

Here are a few things you can do when your partner is a control freak. Control freaks are extremely clever and adept at manipulating people and situations to fall in with their wishes.

If your partner is one, then most likely you have been brainwashed into believing that you are incapable of thinking or doing anything right on your own and that the only way to do a thing is to do it their way.You may have acceded to your partner’s wishes a few times in the past just to avoid any unpleasantness.But your partner will point this out to you as evidence of your own weakness and continue to bully you to act in accordance with their wishes.Ask your partner if you can have a talk at a time and place of their convenience.And when you have got their attention, point out how their desire to control your life and choices is no longer letting you be the person they fell in love with in the first place.However you should realize that no matter how many times you give in to your partner’s wishes and how understanding you try to be, unless you do something to defend your own self-worth and self-respect, no one else will. Unfortunately people trapped in long term relationships with controlling partners usually have had their independence and resources taken away from them early on so that they no longer have the courage to strike out on their own.