So did the intricacies of its language and culture. People didn’t take screenshots back then, but I found a video that captures someone loading up AOL 4.0.

I was very ashamed of my secret life online, and I didn’t tell a soul about what I was doing, but years later, as I worked with my camwhore character Caroline, I began to think back to these early experiences I had with the Internet.

My play and my e-book both deal with this time in my life, and focus on the same cybersex relationship. She’s twelve when she finds a chat room called “Twelve,” which is a community mostly of kids around her own age.

My partner and I repeat the same things over and over to each other, and all they basically amount to is "I like having sex with you." On top of that, the view of myself on-cam makes me way self-conscious.

I usually have to turn off the video and keep the conversation to a bare minimum if I'm going to relax enough to have any chance of finishing.

Based on over 150 interviews with online chat and cybersex participants, "Self-Games and Body-Play" is an empirically grounded analysis of how these unique experiences provide a lens for better understanding the nature of personhood in everyday life. Waskul is Assistant Professor of Sociology at Southern Utah University.

When I first got into a long-distance relationship, I thought I'd be a pro at having cyber sex.I'm not afraid to talk about sex, so it should be easy, right? I had no clue what to say or do, and everything I tried just felt super cheesy.I'd like to say I've made some improvements since, but months later, I stick suck at it.She’s an outsider at first but manages to become accepted by the group before beginning to chat privately with a twenty-seven-year-old who goes by the handle jobe when hanging out in Twelve.She’s not an idiot; she knows how old he is, and that he is a pedophile, yet she’s drawn in by the idea that a cool, older hacker guy likes her.This week, I invited sex tech consultant Lux Alpatrum to explain the culture around digital sex, and how technology is influencing intimacy. on i Tunes, listen on Sound Cloud, or subscribe via RSS. You can also find the entire collection of What's Tech?